There's no doubt that death is an unhappy and unwelcome truth of life, and its closeness makes us feel uncomfortable like anything else can. Indeed, even the friendliest or talkative person finds it difficult to talk to somebody who is grieving the demise of a friend, a family member or a companion. Let's take a look at a few things you need to avoid saying at funerals.
“I Know How You Feel”
Actually, no, you don't have an idea how it feels. Like our identities, the manner in which each of us responds and reacts to pain is different. Expressing that you know how any other individual feels is a bit snobbish & disdainful. Also, if you don't know how somebody grieving demise is feeling in their heart, it's just alright to simply say, “I don't have words to say anything, but please know that I'm sad and sorry.” Try not to say simply, “I'm sad for your misfortune.” As this expression is too common and sounds unsettling for the grieving person.
“He/She Is In A Better Place Now.”
Any individual who expresses this expression has unmistakably never faced the loss of someone close because of death. Regardless of the possibility that you trust that the best place is paradise, saying this expression to the mourner recommends that he or she in some way or another should feel happy about the misfortune and that crying and showing pain about the circumstance is strange. So, avoid saying this statement.
“Don't To Cry” Or “Be Strong.”
Remarking on how somebody is reacting to or managing of a negative circumstance is bad and serves no purpose instead creates sentiments of guilt or even bitterness. Overall, individuals encounter a few comparable stages or periods of pain & grief after loss of a companion. However, exactly when and how somebody displays his or her pain & anguish is a personal decision. Asking a griever that he or she should not express emotions naturally can result in an irregular or complex reaction as the griever can't handle, or acknowledge, the sentiments connected with a loss due to death.
“He/She Looks So Natural.”
Have you ever taken a look at a living individual and said a statement like this before? Of course not, because somebody who looks natural in life will also look natural after death. He/she would not become artificial. In other words, there's no need to make a remark on it. Saying this remark when taking a look at a deceased person lying in a coffin just emphasizes that he or she is not alive.
“Tell Me, If I Can Offer Help.”
Saying to someone grieving because of demise – and exhausted by the large number of choices he or she made in the previous few days, and then asking them to make yet another choice is insensitive, uncaring and oppressive. However, one thing you can ask the grieving person is to check whether the deceased person had taken a Funeral Plan or not. A Funeral Plan can surely bring a lot of financial and other support to the mourner.