Being a positive parent can be difficult especially if you grew up in a family that used spanking, hitting or yelling as a form of “discipline.” And now as a parent yourself, it can be hard for you to make the switch to positive parenting.
A positive parent is one who is sensitive in responding to the needs and emotions of their kids. The aim of positive parenting is to determine the needs of kids as well as to lessen punishment in the form of spanking and name calling.
Nevertheless, here are some tips on how to make the switch to positive parenting while enforcing good behavior to your children.
1. Focus on one habit at a time
Unlearning something that you have gotten used to does not come in a wink of an eye. Take small steps to start your change. It all starts with deciding not to spank or yell at your kids. Once you do, it will be much easier to praise effectively and communicate with your kids. The small steps you are taking can make a huge difference in your desire to be good parents.
2. Make constant reminders
Constantly reminding yourself not to yell or spank your kids is another helpful step in becoming a positive parent. Putting notes all over the house can be really helpful too. Seeing those notes posted all over the house can help remind you not to blow your top.
3. Write it down
Maintaining a journal may be silly for some but can be a huge help. At the end of the day or at night, you can write down the things that you are thankful for, your goals for the next day, and what things would you have done in a different manner. As simple as it is, keeping a journal is another positive step in effectively connecting with your kids.
4. Patience is a virtue
Don't be hard on yourself. Somewhere along the way, you will make mistakes. But don't let failure put you down. Changes may take time and even if you succeed with being positive parents, you will never be perfect.
5. Be patient with your kids
Just like you want to be patient with yourself, you likewise need patience with your kids. Acknowledge first that they are normal beings with their own needs as well. By doing this, you can search for creative ways on how you can honor their own needs.
6. Connect with other positive parents
You do not have to be alone on your journey to becoming a positive parent. Finding a similar family can make the transition much easier and less burdensome for you. This way, you do not have to feel that you are being judged by other families while you are trying to discipline your kids.
Making the transition from being a traditional disciplinarian to becoming a positive parent is not easy and will take time. Just bear in mind these tips and you can look forward to making good behavior fun anywhere and anytime for yourself and your kids.