Facing the terrible twos for the first time can be a truly nerve-wracking experience. Not only do parents have to deal with the fact that their babies have become more independent, but they also have to navigate the often uneven avenue called toddlerhood.
Toddlerhood is not bad at all; in fact, many parents say that toddlerhood is the sweetest and best period of them all. But still, some parents experience some common difficulties associated with children aged two to four. Toddlers are often very emotional, and they also have a tendency to throw tantrums when something does not go the way they planned it.
If you are having difficulties yourself, don't despair. Do not think for a moment that you have become a bad parent because of your toddler's behavior. It will get better. Your toddler is just navigating a somewhat difficult period in his life.
He's learning and changing so much (mentally and physically) that sometimes, it's hard for him to take in and process all of these new emotions and experiences. Here are some easy ways to avoid the problems associated with the terrible twos:
1. Do not get mad at the fact that your child wants to do things his way. Be there, so that he becomes successful in his little adventures.
Toddlers may seem pesky at times, but often, their escapades are quite harmless. Learn to adapt to the increased activity of your toddler, and you're already halfway down the road to successfully surviving the terrible twos.
2. Spend both a good quantity of time, as well as quality time with your child. Some parents think that ten minutes of quality time every day is enough, as long as the parent shows full attention. This is not true. Children need to be with their parents for longer periods of time.
Also, don't be mad at your child for constantly calling for you. Toddlers only need twenty to thirty seconds of your time whenever they tell you something, or when they show you something they've done. Giving in to these little things helps a child tremendously.
3. Tantrums occur because of pent-up emotions. Sure, toddlers don't pay taxes, and they don't have to deal with tough bosses. But that doesn't mean that they don't experience the negative emotions that we all go through.
When a toddler is unable to hold in his emotions, his emotions will suddenly explode in what is popularly called a tantrum. When a child throws a tantrum, just keep quite and let him finish.
4. Strategic ignoring works if you want to correct a child's language and behavior. For example, if your child suddenly says “damn” even if no one has said it around him, he's trying to find out what kind of reaction he will get from you if he uses that word.
Children have no idea what “damn” means, so if you ignore it, he will not use it again unless he hears the word frequently enough around your home.
5. Toddlers love routine. If you can create a consistent routine at home, your toddler will be much easier to handle, I'm sure of it.