Most parenting courses are bound to fail right from the start. Maybe you have tried some of these programs. Maybe you've even read about differing parenting styles or techniques only to be disappointed after. In each case you may have felt as though something was just not right with the material.
Here's why. Almost all parenting courses that are available involve punishments or rewards, quick fixes or even manipulation. However, these types of courses will not work, or at best, they are only a temporary fix to a bigger, root problem.
Addressing the symptoms and not the problems is the easier thing to do. That is the nature of our quick-fix society today. We want things cleared up now, not tomorrow, and we do not like to wait for things to happen.
There is no quick remedy to parenting. And the right thing to do, by addressing the root of the problem, is emotionally exhausting, and can sometimes feel like a relentless test. But, covering up the root of the problem using a band aid like method is not going to fix the problem, just mask its symptoms. Pent up emotions are bound to erupt explosively, and then there is no training in the world that is going to stop it.
With parenting courses that focus purely on the root of the behavior problem, you will be eradicating the problem right at its source. This in turn will help to support your child's emotions and growth development in a very positive way.
As a parent, we only want what is best for our children, but by simply addressing the symptoms, we are only damaging their chances of a happy childhood and adult life, thus ignoring “what's best for them”. By giving your children the tools that will allow them to live a happy and good life, you are ensuring that they will respect you as well as others, and their bad behavior will be just a distant memory.
Remember that obnoxious behavior is the direct result of unexpressed fears and emotions and is a buildup of stress that has not been allowed to be expressed adequately. No matter what their age , you will find that it is never too late to learn new ways of listening and connecting with your children.