Exactly how often have you been in a mall, grocery shop, gas station or airplane and experienced a young child having a screaming fit? It takes place all the time. I know, being a solitary mother with 4 children, that we make a real effort much of the time to keep some kind of peace with our toddlers and children, and gosh, even our tweens, now that I consider it.
Here is exactly what is so common and exactly what I always used to do. I would take my young children to the grocery shop and the first thing I would do is get them a free fresh cookie at the free warm cookies for kids bakery. Then, I would go as swiftly as I could, wishing to complete my grocery shopping journey before their cookie was done, constantly to a predestined failing point. Pretty soon, they were battling over the cart or for some other reason and I would leave the grocery shop with everyone a little annoyed and sullen and frazzled.
Every single mom who takes their child or kids to the supermarket would opt to have their children work together, so they can get their grocery shopping done and keep their dignity as a parent. Thomas Liotta, my partner suggested to me to learn what is very important to your young child or tween. Exactly what is in it for the kid to act in the method that is vital to you?
If it is the cookie in the supermarket, you would have a brief discussion with your kid: “Little Timmy, I would enjoy for you to have a cookie. For you to earn a cookie you will be peaceful, calm and cooperative in the store. When you are, after we come out, you could have your cookie. Okay?” Using a mere two to five minutes to pre-frame with your kid will actually save you 30-60 minutes of irritation in the store!
This is all it costs you. Two to five quick minutes of pre-framing! The small ideas help us to parent better every day!